tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697591463817975174.comments2021-03-27T21:33:50.994-07:00Scriberson 365Sarah Scribersonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03568220251311845868noreply@blogger.comBlogger429125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697591463817975174.post-35902445369268590532017-06-28T18:15:55.531-07:002017-06-28T18:15:55.531-07:00Wow. Can totally see why you're divorced.Wow. Can totally see why you're divorced.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14925661915974966887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697591463817975174.post-41905110559922840592016-10-08T12:36:33.468-07:002016-10-08T12:36:33.468-07:00So I've been a paid firefighter in NC for abou...So I've been a paid firefighter in NC for about 12 years now, currently with one of the largest city departments in the state which will remain nameless. Yes Ma'am, marriage is hard and being married to a firefighter is harder..it's all in what you make of it though. I am a statistic, divorced firefighter ( lets blame it on my schedule or whatever you'd like to blame it on ), the truth is we did not want it badly enough to make it work. I love my job, and my fire family..perhaps if our significant others had that same passion for something other than their own concerns about who's doing the dishes, or who's going to take the trash to the road they would be more understanding. Opposites attract, and a fireman by nature is a person so giving of themselves, that they put a stranger before everything else..so if you are the opposite of that, what do you stand for? After reading the comments on here I wonder if I should even consider remarrying again, ever..because the level of resentment on this page makes me feel like a fireman doesn't deserve to be loved by anyone other than a stripper. Which statistically firemen do tend to marry strippers, redheads, and nurses. Thanks for the commentsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697591463817975174.post-52305002024011885992015-01-21T20:15:59.416-08:002015-01-21T20:15:59.416-08:00Yup, pretty much sucks. My husband had a good pay...Yup, pretty much sucks. My husband had a good paying 8-5 job for the first 4 years of our marriage and then decided to be a fireman. It immediately caused a lot of resentment on my part, that he gave up a huge salary to do this job that paid nothing and required so much of his time. Yey!!! He was recently promoted and now on top of his fireman job (and the other 2 side jobs he works, just to get us by), he has to go through the police academy for 6 months and 2 weeks of out of state training. I cant stand it anymore. We have a special needs son and when my husband comes home, he cant stand the stress and within 5 minutes of walking through the door, either isolates himself or starts screaming and cussing at the kids. I feel like I am on pins and needles when he is home and sometimes prefer him to just be at work. I co-sleep with my children, so my husband and I have not slept in the same bed for the past 5 years. I have no social life outside of volunteering at the kids school because I have no one to watch the kids. We never have date nights because I do not have parents anymore and his will only babysit one child at a time. I am so lonely that I think I am going crazy. I go to most school events, teacher conferences, doctor appointments, holidays, etc. alone with the kids. He feels that because he works three jobs, it is not his job to help out at home, and since I do not work, so I rarely get a break. He is constantly saying, " I am glad you have more patience than I do because I cant deal with "our special needs son" behavior." When he does give me a break away from the house, when I get home, he is so grumpy and stressed that it is not even worth it. I enjoy pinterest projects and decorating but all my projects must be done while entertaining children. If I do take a break from all my chores and the children to work on my projects, I feel guilty that I took time for myself because the house and children fall apart. If I get sick of all the housework and stop doing it, when he comes home, he gets grumpy and starts obsessively cleaning because he cant stand the mess. I feel like a failure as a mother and wife half the time. I know he thinks he is being a good father and husband by working all the time to support his family and I am grateful for that but I need a husband and a father to my kids!!! I am so unhappy and would never wish this lifestyle on anyone. I love him and we will stay married because I refuse to give up, but being married to a firefighter causes a lot of hidden resentment and in my case, is not a very happy life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697591463817975174.post-17607427990204730092014-05-02T08:57:08.575-07:002014-05-02T08:57:08.575-07:00TY Sarah, I am restoring an old Tudor revival home...TY Sarah, I am restoring an old Tudor revival home and the river stone will compliment the multicolored slate roof. The preparation for this has taken some time !Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697591463817975174.post-39807444773749499652014-05-02T08:40:32.476-07:002014-05-02T08:40:32.476-07:00We have been very happy. This was actually four ye...We have been very happy. This was actually four years ago and just this year we are talking about getting another load to fill in some low spots, etc. It has been really nice because the kids are out there barefoot a lot and it isn't as hard on their feet as the crushed rock plus when it rains the stones turn all kinds of different colors. It's really pretty. Sarah Scribersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03568220251311845868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697591463817975174.post-98210599266631772014-05-02T08:36:32.440-07:002014-05-02T08:36:32.440-07:00Were you happy with the result, has the driveway h...Were you happy with the result, has the driveway held up well ? I plan to use river stone as well, many claim it will shift more but it is so much more attractive than crushed limestone.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697591463817975174.post-91437395349284009552014-02-22T21:46:53.456-08:002014-02-22T21:46:53.456-08:00Thanks for not sugar coating the firefighter famil...Thanks for not sugar coating the firefighter family life. I have read so many posts about how its difficult but "we make it work." I call shenanigans. My ff and I have been married almost 13 years. He became a volunteer ff 7 years ago and switched to full time 1.5 years ago. I'd like to strangle the guy that got him interested in this. I have tried so hard to be supportive because that's what you do for family, but I don't know if I can keep living this lifestyle.anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10639831397750106835noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697591463817975174.post-63738468366352156562014-02-22T21:41:53.429-08:002014-02-22T21:41:53.429-08:00Thanks for not sugar coating the firefighter famil...Thanks for not sugar coating the firefighter family life. I have read so many posts about how its difficult but "we make it work." I call shenanigans. My ff and I have been married almost 13 years. He became a volunteer ff 7 years ago and switched to full time 1.5 years ago. I'd like to strangle the guy that got him interested in this. I have tried so hard to be supportive because that's what you do for family, but I don't know if I can keep living this lifestyle.anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10639831397750106835noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697591463817975174.post-53150759496983747332014-02-12T16:35:09.821-08:002014-02-12T16:35:09.821-08:00Fab fotos 'n posts! Every one!Fab fotos 'n posts! Every one!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697591463817975174.post-82949123322233023592014-01-22T19:21:01.309-08:002014-01-22T19:21:01.309-08:00Praying 2014 blesses your socks off and brings you...Praying 2014 blesses your socks off and brings you amazing blessings!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697591463817975174.post-75459826524794298492014-01-20T23:28:40.643-08:002014-01-20T23:28:40.643-08:00Gosh! I don't think we knew about many of tho...Gosh! I don't think we knew about many of those things you went through! We perhaps could have loved you a bit more or or or. You have certainly grown and become stronger. We love you--and 2014 WILL BE better... Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697591463817975174.post-29434046160713003902013-10-08T10:07:01.096-07:002013-10-08T10:07:01.096-07:00I feel your pain, I have 4 children 10 and under t...I feel your pain, I have 4 children 10 and under that I homeschool all day everyday while my husband is gone. I gave up a 10 year career in the Air Force so he could follow his dream and be a fireman. Well after 11 1/2 years of being married to a firefigher I can say I relate to everything everyone is saying. I go to dance recitals, practices, piano lessons, church functions, ect. alone...all...the...time..so much so that it is awkward when he actually is there. I have spent the last 3 Christmas's, Thanksgivings, 4th of July's alone. I have no family here, I was military so I am 800 miles from any relative. People say it must be nice to have a fireman/paramedic for a husband, you must feel so safe. Yep I do, I feel safe because my next door neighbor - the accountant - is great at helping us out when natural disasters strike because my own husband is out helping random folks and not us. He works a part-time job because his pay is so low we can't live off it, this means that we are apart even more as he is gone working 12 hours shifts as a paramedic every week - and wait for it....still not able to do what we want/need to financially. When he is home he's snoring, or wants to take it easy. While we may not have been taking it easy, we have been at home the whole time so it is hard to spend our time with him just sitting around. Classes are another issue. He just got home from a week out of state a couple weeks ago, and now is leaving for another week on Monday. Being married to a firefighter is not something I would take lightly. The time they spend without you breeds resentment, esp. if you have friends who have husbands with normal jobs. If I knew what I know now, I would have forced him into another career a decade ago, but it's too late for that. I love him, but there are times when this job really is NOT worth the personal sacrifice. For those getting ready to marry firemen, get used to playing second fiddle. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697591463817975174.post-59470814709835782282013-08-25T21:29:09.676-07:002013-08-25T21:29:09.676-07:00I am so with you! We were all about supporting my ...I am so with you! We were all about supporting my husband in his dream job! Heck! The only thing my son has ever wanted to be is a firefighter! But I often wonder where I fit in. Or my dreams and desires. There is really no such thing as me time, it is the mommy show half the week-when he doesn't pick up or run calls with another department. Sometimes it is 4-5 24 hour shifts. And I'm just supposed to understand and listen. I'm an ER nurse. I don't need to hear about every call or what all the guys think. I love my husband, but I'm not a big fan of the job/ lifestyle!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697591463817975174.post-22095777580103109352013-07-05T23:05:15.418-07:002013-07-05T23:05:15.418-07:00I love this man and am thankful you chose him to b...I love this man and am thankful you chose him to be your husband because I love you, too!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697591463817975174.post-2415900587245114012013-06-19T13:47:23.606-07:002013-06-19T13:47:23.606-07:00I love being a part of your lives through your pho...I love being a part of your lives through your photos and your words--and you surely DO have a marvelous way of expressing yourself--so this blog is a great way to do it and share with those of us who love all of you so very much! Keep it up--and be blessed in doing so!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697591463817975174.post-89726822124712433462013-06-19T12:00:47.513-07:002013-06-19T12:00:47.513-07:00When you know in your heart you're right about...When you know in your heart you're right about your own child---you KNOW--and so you do. No worries! I concur with you thinking ahead. She will be blessed--yup--she will. And this I KNOW as a grandmother!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697591463817975174.post-23298377417768903332013-06-19T11:44:21.119-07:002013-06-19T11:44:21.119-07:00I am realllly glad you know what a treasure you ha...I am realllly glad you know what a treasure you have in your darlin' dot--I pray you have a relationship just like Meagan and I--but we did have to go through some stormy, and fiery territory before coming out on the adult side. And it's all so very worth it. She's totally blessed to have you for a mom--fer shurrrrre! I'm sad you won't be able to come to SR, but understand...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697591463817975174.post-58661700862869153922013-05-27T10:54:34.260-07:002013-05-27T10:54:34.260-07:00Thanks Jenna! I've really enjoyed watching you...Thanks Jenna! I've really enjoyed watching your 52 weeks with the boys project, they will love that when they are older. Sarah Scribersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03568220251311845868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697591463817975174.post-39212044606125341662013-05-27T05:38:05.797-07:002013-05-27T05:38:05.797-07:00It's possible to blog through struggles withou...It's possible to blog through struggles without being specific. I've done it over the years.<br /><br />This is also why I started the 52 weeks project with the boys, to push me to use my camera more. Jennahttp://stopdropandblog.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697591463817975174.post-78573372749597861072013-03-12T02:09:20.023-07:002013-03-12T02:09:20.023-07:00I understand, I work nights 3 days a week/12hr shi...I understand, I work nights 3 days a week/12hr shifts and my husband is at the fire house 3-4 days a week. That's not also counting overtime he'll sign on or get hooked for, his union meetings for work, and or his bowling league with the work guys. There are times I see him less then 24 hours the for the entire week. It's hard to not get resentful, when you walk into an empty house after a bad day and see all the house hold chores that have your name written all over them because he wont be around to help out. It gets old going everywhere alone like your single when your not. We don't have any kids, and it's not likely we will be able to so this makes for a very lonely home life when he's gone. My cat is a regular "Wilson" stand in for me at times. I feel selfish wanting him home and it seems like there is this ever present portrait of what a "fire wife" is supposed to be like that I find myself in competion with. I feel like I'm supposed to be this needless, stoik, wife bursting with pride in her husband's choice of career, when in reality I often times fight with being lonely, bitter and resentful. This in turn makes me feel like I not only make a crappy cheerleader but a bad wife. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697591463817975174.post-39035627947153929422013-02-19T22:02:58.241-08:002013-02-19T22:02:58.241-08:00I completely feel ya! I have been in your shoes ma...I completely feel ya! I have been in your shoes many many many times and am currently... I am so tired of being married... yet being so LONELY! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697591463817975174.post-4693494428906299742012-07-29T12:34:59.164-07:002012-07-29T12:34:59.164-07:00I get pretty touchy when any old men are condescen...I get pretty touchy when any old men are condescending to me and truthfully, I think firefighting is a younger person's career. I see very few GOOD firefighters within 5 years of retirement. They just seem to get burned out and the field changes too quickly. Especially for a small department like Sunriver.Sarah Scribersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03568220251311845868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697591463817975174.post-38384436514032650602012-07-29T08:36:36.272-07:002012-07-29T08:36:36.272-07:00that was some morning! I have the exact opposite ...that was some morning! I have the exact opposite opinion of the FD medics and saw why the elder acted the way he did,--but that's okay. We handled it pretty darn well and thank God it all worked out good as oh boy, it sure could've gone the opposite direction. A side note, and I don't mean to be the doting gramma, but jeeeeeze Louise, I think this is a smashingly stunning photo of one beautiful girl--now come on! She is so very lovely inside AND out. Even if I were not related and love her dearly... I wish you could post it on FB, then I'd share it and everyone else would say the same thing. Ha!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697591463817975174.post-22915696699389548292012-07-25T19:32:51.962-07:002012-07-25T19:32:51.962-07:00I'm so glad it was good! I did sorta kinda wo...I'm so glad it was good! I did sorta kinda worry about your drive over to BB after ya left here--hope those Ipods worked just as well then, but somehow sorta doubt it! It was such fun having you 3 all to ourselves, just Ev and I! Even if... <3Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697591463817975174.post-74941890494106020412012-07-24T15:18:49.550-07:002012-07-24T15:18:49.550-07:00sweet little ladybug. Sweet photo! Never heard o...sweet little ladybug. Sweet photo! Never heard of a chlorine rash--oh ugh. Rand always told our kids to "spit on it" if it itches. Oh ugh again. But he did/they did/danged if it didn't work! Oh ugh. Again!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com